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The following books are highly recommended by the staff of the Granite State Children’s Alliance.

Books for Teens

Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships, by Ruth Bell.
A sophisticated book for teens, discussing physical, sexual and emotional health.
Girlology: A Girl’s Guide to Stuff that Matters, by Melissa Holmes & Trish Hutchison.
A book for preteen to young teen-age girls, discussing relationships and sexuality.
The Guy Book: An Owner’s Manual, by Marvis Jukes.
From purchasing birth control to getting rid of acne, this is a helpful and informative guide for young men dealing with puberty and the common challenges of their teenage years.
It’s Happened to Me: A Teen’s Guide to Overcoming Sexual Abuse, by William Lee Carter.
Written for teens and those who treat them, this is a workbook to rebuild the strength and confidence abused teens need to reshape their self-image.
Cyber-Safe Kids, Cyber-Savvy Teens: Helping Young People Learn To Use the Internet Safely and Responsibly, by Nancy E. Willard.
Essential strategies to keep children and teens safe on the Internet, with need-to-know information for parents about online dangers.
A Young Adult’s Guide to Safety in the Digital Age, by Jeff Sechler.
For teens. Topics include online predators, cyber-bullying, sexting, internet addiction, identity theft, online scams, viruses and spyware, as well as how the Internet plays a role in copyright infringement and plagiarism.

Books for Parents/Caregivers

How Long Does it Hurt?, by Cynthia Mather.
Best-selling book written by an incest survivor for future survivors, their friends and families. For teens and older.
It’s Perfectly Normal, by Robie Harris.
Discusses growing up, changing bodies and sexual health. For ages 10 years old and up.
Protecting the Gift, by Gavin DeBecker.
Written for parents, covering safety skills for kids outside the home, warning signs of sexual abuse, how to screen baby-sitters, how to choose schools, & strategies for keeping teens safe from violence.
Talking to your Kids about Sex – From Toddlers to Preteens, by Laurie Berkenkamp & Steven Atkins
Venus in Blue Jeans: Why Moms and Daughters Need to Talk about Sex, by Nathalie Bartle.
Shows mothers how to guide their daughters safely through the fears, intimacies and sexual choices of adolescence. Geared towards parents of 10-14 year old girls.
When Your Child Has Been Molested: A Parents’ Guide to Healing and Recovery, by Kathryn Brohl.
For adults with children who have been molested, offering techniques for therapy, healing, and recovery.
i-SAFE Internet Safety Activities: Reproducible Projects for Teachers and Parents, Grades K-8 (Jossey-Bass Teacher), by i-SAFE.
Easy-to-use guide for teachers and parents to help elementary and middle school students develop their Internet skills while keeping safe.
Living With the Internet and Online Dangers (Teen’s Guides), by Corey Sandler.
Highlights the risks and problems that come with modern Web technology, as well as what teens can do to protect themselves.
The Parent’s Guide to Facebook: Tips and Strategies to Protect Your Children on the World’s Largest Social Network, by Kathryn Rosen.
A step-by-step guide for parents focusing on using Facebook as window into your children’s life, friends, attitudes and online actions.
The Parent’s Guide to Texting, Facebook, and Social Media: Understanding the Benefits and Dangers of Parenting in a Digital World, by Shawn Marie Edgington.
For parents, school counselors, teachers, administrators and other professionals who want a solid, research-based, and comprehensive guide on counseling for cyberbullying.

Books to Share with Younger Children

My Body Belongs to Me, by Jill Starishevsk. Speaking to children on their own terms, this critically acclaimed book sensitively establishes boundaries for youngsters. In a non-threatening, engaging manner, this guide teaches kids that when it comes to their body, there are some parts that are for “no one else to see” and empowers them to tell a parent or teacher if someone touches them inappropriately.
Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept, by Jayneen Sanders
‘Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept’ is a beautifully illustrated children’s picture book that sensitively broaches the subject of keeping children safe from inappropriate touch.
My Body! What I Say Goes!, by Jayneen Sanders
The crucial skills taught in this book will help children to protect their bodies from inappropriate touch. Children will be empowered to say in a strong and clear voice, “This is my body! What I say goes!”
I Said No! A Kid-to-kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private, by Zack & Kimberly King
Helping kids set healthy boundaries for their private parts can be a daunting and awkward task for parents, counselors and educators. Written from a kid s point of view, I Said No! makes this task a lot easier.
Do You Have a Secret? (Let’s Talk About It!), by Jennifer Moore-Mallinos
Every child has secrets, and many secrets are fun to keep–for instance, a surprise birthday gift for Mom, or a secret handshake with a young friend. But sometimes, children have secrets that make them feel bad, and these secrets are best shared with their parents, or with some trusted older person.
The Right Touch, by Sandy Kleven
The Right Touch reaches beyond the usual scope of a children’s picture book. It is a parenting book that introduces a very difficult topic–the sexual abuse of young children. This gentle, thoughtful story can be read aloud to a child by any trusted caregiver.
Telling Isn’t Tattling, by Kathryn Hammerseng.
Thirteen stories of children telling or tattling. Alternatives to tattling and additional suggestions for telling are included. Useful resource for 4-12 year olds.
Your Body Belongs to You, by Cornelia Spelman.
Explains what to say and do if someone touches your body when you do not want to be touched, especially when the action involves the touching of private parts. For young children, aged 2-7 years.
The Berenstain Bears’ Computer Trouble, by Jan Berenstain.
When Papa brings home a computer, the whole family is excited. Soon Mama, Brother, Sister, and even Honey start spending all day every day staring at their own computers. It’s up to Papa to get the family off the computer and back into the real world!
It’s So Amazing, by Robie Harris.
Uses bird and bee cartoon characters to present straightforward explanations on topics related to sexual development, love, reproduction, adoption, sexually transmitted diseases and more. Ages 7 years old and up.
My Body is Private, by Linda Walvoord Girard.
A mother-child conversation introduces the topic of sexual abuse and ways to keep one’s body private. For school aged children.